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Now, I won't give out my name but call me Danielle (21, F). My cousin will be called Martin (36, M). I met my cousin Martin at a family get together a year ago. I didn't really know him or what he looked like. We generally only ever talked via Hangouts. When I saw what he looked like, I was immediately smitten and aroused but had really no clue that that was my cousin. I was sitting there thinking all kinds of naughty things I'd do to him as we talked over a drink. And then my other cousin walks up and says, "Glad to see you finally met your other cousin! He's only saw ya once as a baby!" My heart dropped and I immediately started feeling guilty. A few days later, I emailed him and I didn't exactly say I was physically attracted to him but I did make it known that I thought he was very good looking and that I'm sorry. He said it was fine and we had a good looking family anyway so it's a compliment. Over the next few weeks I had built such an insane and intense physical attraction. We continue to messaged  each other on Hangouts despite my confession. There was this guy I was having relations with casually every other day or week at that point which took the edge off of the carnal desire I was feeling. By accident, I sent him a rather explicit picture and he asked me to please not do this again. He then asked why I was sending pics like that and I couldn't bring myself to tell him so I said " Feelings". We didn't quite talk much after that but then we continued after he visited several months later. He wouldn't hug me like he did the other members of my household. He only waved and smiled at me and I could feel the tension from across the room. Sexual or not, I've no clue. Probably grossed out. Then another few months went by and I was still seeing my relations partner. Martin and I were engaging in casual conversation when I brought up I might not be on much longer because I was having a friend over. He then said "What kind of friend?" It made me feel very excited. He's a manly man and his voice is rather authoritative and harsh which I really really like a lot. I said "What other kinds of friends exist? It's just a regular friend, silly!" He then got a bit more questioning and said, "Don't play dumb with me, you know I'm smarter than that." Holy cow! I then just told him it was a makeout buddy and nothing serious. The conversation then went to normal. From then on it's been kind of hard not to imagine myself with him in a physical way. He makes very suggestive jokes which kind of makes things harder on me. I guess what I'm asking is... What should I even do? Should I avoid him? Should I even talk to him anymore? Should I even discuss these feelings with him at all? 

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Very explicit content, moderator warning.

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2 hours ago, UkelelePineapple said:

*Some details have been altered for anonymity***

Now, I won't give out my name but call me Danielle (21, F). My cousin will be called Martin (36, M). I met my cousin Martin at a family get together a year ago. I didn't really know him or what he looked like. We generally only ever talked via Hangouts. When I saw what he looked like, I was immediately smitten and aroused but had really no clue that that was my cousin. I was sitting there thinking all kinds of naughty things I'd do to him as we talked over a drink. And then my other cousin walks up and says, "Glad to see you finally met your other cousin! He's only saw ya once as a baby!" My heart dropped and I immediately started feeling guilty. A few days later, I emailed him and I didn't exactly say I was sexually attracted to him but I did make it known that I thought he was very good looking and that I'm sorry. He said it was fine and we had a good looking family anyway so it's a compliment. Over the next few weeks I had built such an insane sexual attraction to the man that I could only masturbate to pics of him. We continue to messaged  each other on Hangouts despite my confession. There was this guy I was having sex with casually every other day or week at that point which took the edge off of the carnal desire I was feeling. By accident, I sent him a rather explicit picture and he asked me to please not do this again. He then asked why I was sending pics like that and I couldn't bring myself to tell him so I said " Feelings". We didn't quite talk much after that but then we continued after he visited several months later. He wouldn't hug me like he did the other members of my household. He only waved and smiled at me and I could feel the tension from across the room. Sexual or not, I've no clue. Probably grossed out. Then another few months went by and I was still seeing my sex partner. Martin and I were engaging in casual conversation when I brought up I might not be on much longer because I was having a friend over. He then said "What kind of friend?" It made my heart jump and my northern regions tingle with excitement. He's a manly man and his voice is rather authoritative and harsh which turns me on. I said "What other kinds of friends exist? It's just a regular friend, silly!" He then got a bit more questioning and said, "Don't play dumb with me, you know I'm smarter than that." Holy holy crapoly!, at this point I'm imagining him just pushing me up against walls with his hot breath against my neck. I then just told him it was a makeout buddy and nothing serious. The conversation then went to normal. From then on it's been kind of hard not to look at his pictures or say his name as I climax from masturbating. He jokes about the size of his penis a lot which doesn't help. I guess what I'm asking is... What should I even do? Should I avoid him? Should I even talk to him anymore? He makes me so flipping turned on that it makes me want to jump his bones no matter who's watching and I really want to have sex with him. 

Hi UkelelePineapple,

Do you know if he has a girlfriend? Just curious. If he does, then probably ask him what do they do together.  Know Im saying? Don't feel guilty on your sexual thoughts about him... you do not control these attractions anyways. But try to gauge if he is a little liberated with regarding these stuff. By the way, you are 21 years old so you got some HUGE advantage. You definitely can pull this one off, I am telling ya. 

After all, if the colors are reversed, guys do the same thing --- right? Soooo... I guess what Im trying to say is that, it's just even. But first of all, figure out first if he does have a girlfriend or not.

 

Pooch

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14 hours ago, pooch said:

Hi UkelelePineapple,

Do you know if he has a girlfriend? Just curious. If he does, then probably ask him what do they do together.  Know Im saying? Don't feel guilty on your sexual thoughts about him... you do not control these attractions anyways. But try to gauge if he is a little liberated with regarding these stuff. By the way, you are 21 years old so you got some HUGE advantage. You definitely can pull this one off, I am telling ya. 

After all, if the colors are reversed, guys do the same thing --- right? Soooo... I guess what Im trying to say is that, it's just even. But first of all, figure out first if he does have a girlfriend or not.

 

Pooch

He's divorced with a daughter. He He tends to be a bit on the stuck up side and will restrict some conversation but overall he makes jokes and sends memes about very suggestive body parts which makes things extremely difficult for me because obviously... But yeah, we're pretty close and I've even offered to pay for us to go out to lunch together and he's accepted my offer. But it never happened due to some unforeseen circumstances.

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Ms. UkelelePineapple, The only advice I have at this time is please clean up the language in your posts. We have

visitors of all ages that visit this site and we want to keep it PG. We don't need such descriptions as you have posted.

No one is interested in what you do behind closed doors when fantasizing about your cousin. You can be less descriptive and 

still get the idea across that you are very attracted to your cousin.

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10 hours ago, Romalee said:

Ms. UkelelePineapple, The only advice I have at this time is please clean up the language in your posts. We have

visitors of all ages that visit this site and we want to keep it PG. We don't need such descriptions as you have posted.

No one is interested in what you do behind closed doors when fantasizing about your cousin. You can be less descriptive and 

still get the idea across that you are very attracted to your cousin.

I understand which is why I listed this content as NSFW. But thanks for the heads up.

 

 

Edit: I modified my posting and the wording I used. Hopefully this is more PG-13.

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Thank you very much! Even though you added the NSFW (whatever that is to us old folks LOL) Doesn't mean  that

it would keep anyone from reading it. 

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On 5/28/2019 at 3:19 PM, UkelelePineapple said:

He's divorced with a daughter. He He tends to be a bit on the stuck up side and will restrict some conversation but overall he makes jokes and sends memes about very suggestive body parts which makes things extremely difficult for me because obviously... But yeah, we're pretty close and I've even offered to pay for us to go out to lunch together and he's accepted my offer. But it never happened due to some unforeseen circumstances.

Cool.. Cool.. 

I do think that you are on the right track. I suggest just keep doing what you are doing. You may want to be always pretty whenever he is on the vicinity.. you know. Believe me, it's just a matter of time and you will get this guy. That restriction of conversation is a facade -- just keep it cool and casual and always give him the (artificial) space he needs.. lol. I believe you don't have problem with this because you guys are pretty close. A lot of girls are envy atcha. hahaha.

 

Pooch

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On 5/30/2019 at 5:16 PM, pooch said:

Cool.. Cool.. 

I do think that you are on the right track. I suggest just keep doing what you are doing. You may want to be always pretty whenever he is on the vicinity.. you know. Believe me, it's just a matter of time and you will get this guy. That restriction of conversation is a facade -- just keep it cool and casual and always give him the (artificial) space he needs.. lol. I believe you don't have problem with this because you guys are pretty close. A lot of girls are envy atcha. hahaha.

 

Pooch

I'm really attracted to him. I hope he starts showing interest. But even if he doesn't, I'll still talk to him regardless. I just dunno.... He makes it really confusing for me to figure him out sometimes. Like overall, I >>STILL<< can't tell what his general feelings might be about me with the given description. Like I don't even know what it seems like anymore on either perspective.

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On 5/31/2019 at 11:41 PM, UkelelePineapple said:

I'm really attracted to him. I hope he starts showing interest. But even if he doesn't, I'll still talk to him regardless. I just dunno.... He makes it really confusing for me to figure him out sometimes. Like overall, I >>STILL<< can't tell what his general feelings might be about me with the given description. Like I don't even know what it seems like anymore on either perspective.

You know what, you don't need to rush things anyways with him if ever.. You know? Coz you might ruin things if you go too hot or too cold. You have to know the balance.

A concern that I feel like with him is that he is divorced with a daughter. It may be the case that he does not see you as an adult enough.. that you are acting childish sometimes (not all the time) but you know,... at this point in his life, he probably would want something "serious" (quotes are intentional) and is looking for a mother for his daughter or anything along those lines. Coz if he is not looking for that, then he must have done the natural thing and get it on with you. And so the fact that he does not and is ambivalent, seems like he is also in a tug-of-war kinda thing. And believe me, guys are like that especially if there are other innocent people involved.

Sooo.. yeah, it's pretty difficult to assess it for awhile since there is an incomplete info available. If you can tell us more of your interaction with him, then probably I can comment more. :)

 

Pooch

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He's interested in one thing.  Sex.  If that's what you want, fine, but don't expect more from him.

If you don't want the explicit text messages, you must tell him in very direct terms to stop.  If he doesn't stop, then you know where his respect meter for you lies.

Seriously, what kind of advice do you want?

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2 hours ago, Serendipity said:

He's interested in one thing.  Sex. 

Not so fast. 

If he is interested in sex, then why didn't he ask her out and you know, made an overt move? Sounds to me like that at least in some aspect, he's weighing on things and/or see Ukelele as a 'childish brat'. 

I dont think he is interested in sex 100%. Flirtation and sexual banter, probably -- but that's it. Nothing more. Ukelele, however, wants to go to the next level... or at least an advice to save her from herself lol.

In the meantime, she has the intention of making herself available for a date. For example,

On 5/28/2019 at 3:19 PM, UkelelePineapple said:

But yeah, we're pretty close and I've even offered to pay for us to go out to lunch together and he's accepted my offer. But it never happened due to some unforeseen circumstances.

 

Pooch

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