I will apologize for the length of this in advance. So I am extremely new to this and am looking for advice or even stories from people who have been in similar situations. So I have had a crush on my second cousin from the time I was a teenager (now 35). (His dad and my dad are first cousins and bffs) I never thought it was ever a possibility and even felt disgusting and wrong for even thinking it. However I still did do the whole daydreaming thing anyway. He works for my fathers company. We worked together for years. Not anymore though. PopHe is actually my dads protégé and everyone loves him. His father has even said to both of us that he wishes his son could find a girl like me. Anyway I have been married and divorced. He was away for a few years and he got home recently. And since he has been back I can FEEL it I’m my bones that he feels a little something, at the very least attracted. So we’ve just acted normal the past few months. But I noticed when he sees me he can’t hold my gaze for too long and gets a little even shy maybe. So I recently quit smoking and one night about three weeks ago I was having a particularly hard craving and I texted him to see if he was around to talk me down from my crazy (he is super calm and chill to my spaz). So I wound up going over and hanging out with him and his dad. It was awesome, we all had a blast over some wine. He insisted I sleep in his bed and he on the couch. I barely slept that night. It was like I could feel an invisible mist floating between us. I could almost feel that he wished he was in the room with me. But nothing happened. So after that we have been texting a good bit. And he is always so complimentary of me and always trying to get me to see myself better. Finally I could not hold out anymore and I had to know. So when I saw an opening I took it. We were texting and he was at someone house for dinner and I said oh sorry I didn’t mean to interrupt your night out. He said it’s fine I always have time for you. So I took it. I said man I wish me and you could be a thing. And he said aw if you weren’t my cousin I would. So I said “I mean barely. But I get what you’re saying. “ to which he replied “are you just trying to see what I would say or are you serious” I said I’m kind of serious why is that creepy and he said no just let me know and don’t second guess. So it winds up he he also attracted. He is hesitant cause of what people would think and I said that’s not even a thought right now. No one has to know. So we hung out that night. Had an amazing night with some adult time included. So I find myself texting him first a lot. But he ALWAYS responds right away and is very engaged in the conversation. So I went over Friday night and we had a good night again but we were drinking so there was some trouble in that area. Which was fine for me cause I still loved every second. I felt like something shifted though when right before we went to bed and I asked how he felt about this and he said good it just sucks cause again of what people would think. So I got a little feisty and said I don’t care what people think. If the time comes to that who cares. I’m 35 and will do what makes me happy. Anyway it was just. It as comfortable as that first night so I left while he was still sleeping cause I just felt a weird vibe and I wanted to get out of there. So I texted him that I didn’t want to wake him and had to get in work early. He didn’t reply even though he always does. So like an hour later I texted back asking if he was up and sorry for dipping out but didn’t want to wake him. He just said cool. Which is kind of short. So then I say are we good and he just goes yea. Now it’s been radio silence. I am an over thinker to the max and I don’t want to ruin this before it even starts. I never even thought I’d get this far. But I SWEAR he has feelings for me, not just attraction. I want to find out but don’t want to push or rush. He was very let’s go with the flow. I haven’t texted and he hasn’t texted. I’ll if I should wait it out or say we need to talk and be clear on where I stand cause I don’t think I communicated it very clearly. I think he more thinks I was putting it out there like a friends with benefits thing and doesn’t realized I have serious feeling for him. I guess I just am looking for people who have been through this. If we weren’t family it wouldn’t be a thing. I just have a gut feeling this is supposed to be but I’m petrified he isn’t feeling that. Anyway any comments would be appreciated. I feel like I am going crazy!! Thanks in advance.
By Bel Handcraft
21 years ago (we dated for one year) I started dating my 26 year old cousin George. It began and the Handcraft family reunion and I remember us both getting drunk and we made love in my parents' bedroom. Ever since then I always called him "Horny Georgie". We both thought it was cute. We were happy until recently I found out we was banging my super slut sister I now call "the family wanker tanker". I was absolutely heartbroken and filed for divorce swiftly. Or at least i wish it was swift, there were many tears shed and harsh words thrown about; I remember "bel the bad smell" being used multiple times.
I honestly don't know what to do with myself I started drinking and its not helping ill nwver meet ansother man like him helk
We met 20 years ago and we didn't know if we were related. 3-5months later, he found out that his grandma was my dad sister. Of course, when we were a kid we got whopping when my dad found out. I came to America and we still communicated, still got whooping. I was not allowed to use the phone either internet. Meant there was no way I could get in touch with him. He is in America and he is 34 and I 32 years old. I was married and separated from my kids' father, was in a long term relationship for 6 years, unfortunately, it didn't work. He married and remarried, his marriage didn't work either. We decided to be together now. We plan on Having kids and get married too. I am the only daughter in my family ?my father and my brothers are really angry ?upset with us. But he makes me happy so do I. We are connected, In love...etc. My kids (13&8) have approved him and want him to adopt them. What do you guys think??
Hello, first time here and am having quite the difficulty typing this out as it is 4am and everything is on my mind.
Basically, ive always liked my cousin from when we were little. Growing up in a middle eastern family i was taught that it is ok to marry your cousin, etc, and have therfor always sought after it as i know her very well through these years and my feelings have only gotten stronger. idk if she likes me, but, in todays society i dont know if its a good thing to do; wouldnt it have to be kept hidden or something? I am only 18 years of age (male) and i know this is kind of weird but i feel like if we were together wede have to hide it for sure or something as everyone makes all the alabama jokes etc, aswell as having a child im afraid he may face abuse from it aswell if theyre friends found out or something. i have done research on the genetic disorders possible from cousin marriages and think it should be fine, (although my worse fear is having a child with some deformities etc from when i was young). so basically i have no idea what to do, if i should wait untill im older, tell her to see if i should wait for something like that, or just forget about it? im afraid if i do go for someone else i would find out later that she was into me all along; or that if i wait and see what happens that i will find out she never liked me all along and i wasted all that time waiting. any advice will be useful, sorry for weird typing im pretty tired.
Truthfully I can’t believe I have made an account...or am even making a post. Maybe cause it’s almost 4 am? Or maybe cause I’m finally tired of bottling it up. This may be long, just a warning.
I’ve had a crush on my cousin since the day I came into this world, believe it or not. The majority of pictures from my childhood are by his side. It actually became a joke between the adults in the family that the two of us were “in love”. And a part of me believes that’s true. But maybe I’m crazy.
The problem was that we live in different countries and although I used to visit every summer, the older I got, the less my parents took me to visit. Granted, that’s only due to the increase of risk in traveling to that country. The less frequently I visited, the harder it was for him and I to pick up where we left off on our friendship.
Currently he’s 23 and I recently turned 18. I know I’m young, so people automatically take what I say as a joke. But every time we wind up in each others presences, theres some sort of tension- like when in movies there’s a separated couple that still have feelings for each-other. As strange as it may seem, my grandmother supports this and wants my cousin and I to be together, as she tells my mother. My parents, however, either get very angry or exaggeratedly laugh at the sound of it.
Him and I remain social media friends, and I don’t want to ruin anything in the family- but I can’t help but feel like a part of me will always be wanting to know if he really did and still does feel the same. Or if there’s a chance we could be together. I constantly find myself unconsciously comparing all my “boyfriends” and flings to him, as if I know no one will ever be enough. I just can’t imagine how I would tell him.
if you actually took the time to read this- thank you. If you have any advice- thanks in advance.