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wanting to know if it's biblically ok? and update

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hey everybody it's been a hot minute since i was on here but i had a question to ask and an update :) 

 

to begin is there anything in the bible that any says cousins in our degree can't marry? i keep reading and it doesn't say but list certain family members who you can't be with. Any advice? any and all is greatly appreciated. this is for 2nd and 3rd cousins

 

Also me and my love are about to celebrate our first year of being together. most of it has been secret but we have made it here and hope to go farther and get married one day despite the oppisotion we will eventually face. He didn't graduate BCT and they sent him home after he was gone for 5 months. we kept in contact through letters. But needless to say he does want to go back and try again if things work out in the future. Now for me i graduated high school and started my college. My love comes and sees me on the weekends and and we spend nights together. WE've talked a lot about our future plans and if things work out for us we want to get married after i finish college and move to a different state.  But i personaly am hoping to graduate in 3 years.

 

 

 

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My faith is Christian and no...first cousins are not disallowed.  In some cases it was very much encouraged.  Me and my husband (1st cousins) have been married 13 years and have 3 amazing children :)

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43 minutes ago, FracturedReality said:

My faith is Christian and no...first cousins are not disallowed.  In some cases it was very much encouraged.  Me and my husband (1st cousins) have been married 13 years and have 3 amazing children :)

Happy new year and lucky you 😊. Were there any complications during your pregnancy?  

Was there any opposition from family members? I know first cousin marriage is legal in Canada even if your religion does not permit. 

 

 

 

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 Yes it is legal. No no complications I wasn't aware I was pregnant with my first child so chances are she may have some spectrum of fasd unfortunately but my other two are fine. 😊

My mother almost crucified me then she found out and I pointed out that (because we are all Christian in my family) that I had written out the multiple verses of what is an abomination in the Bible in many different ways from many different copies and and none of it was it wrong and even in some cases encouraged. So after 3 months or so of her going over the Bible right back to the Hebrew original she had apologized and she defended me to other family that did not 'agree' we will say, I still have a kind of strained relationship with them but they weren't family that was close to begin with so it's not anything that bothers me.

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21 hours ago, FracturedReality said:

 Yes it is legal. No no complications I wasn't aware I was pregnant with my first child so chances are she may have some spectrum of fasd unfortunately but my other two are fine. 😊

My mother almost crucified me then she found out and I pointed out that (because we are all Christian in my family) that I had written out the multiple verses of what is an abomination in the Bible in many different ways from many different copies and and none of it was it wrong and even in some cases encouraged. So after 3 months or so of her going over the Bible right back to the Hebrew original she had apologized and she defended me to other family that did not 'agree' we will say, I still have a kind of strained relationship with them but they weren't family that was close to begin with so it's not anything that bothers me.

Yes at one point you give up on your relatives, I don't even care about what people think or say. 

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All I care about is my parents and at this stage, they have given up on me and accepted that I have feelings for my cousin. Initially, the opinion of my relatives or friends used to bother me a lot but, I realized I do not even talk to most of them everyday and they don't know what is going on in my life, never even bothered to ask me if I needed some kind of help or emotional support ever. Now, I do not even care how they feel about me or my feelings or my relationship. I know the importance of people who genuinely care for me and they do understand how I feel and why I make difficult life choices. But, for the most part majority of relatives get intimidated by me, which I really don't care about :).

All I know is my decisions are my decisions, if I am not happy I will not keep people around me happy. So, it's better for me to do whatever I please and just reciprocate actions or attitudes of my friends or relatives. There are many people in my life who don't even like me and they are the ones who are most effected by my choice, usually they talk to me once a year or once in many years, so changing my decision for them or for their so called honor is not right (this is my belief). In reality, no one actually cares for you or have time to care for others but we ourselves have to keep ourselves happy.

:D I am so happy for you, everything turned out so well for you. :)

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There are several cousin couples in the Bible and Leviticus only bans relationships between "close family members". Apparently cousins aren't included. 

I haven't heard of any ban on cousin couples in any religion... Seems mostly to be societal. 

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