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How can I convince him?

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Hello, i'm back again.

Last month I posted a thread here asking for advice on how to tell if my cousin was interested in me. Well, I finally couldn't take it anymore and I wrote him a letter telling him I liked him. I left it under his pillow while he was working. He read it and he kind of laughed about it. I wasn't sure how to take it. Nothing much changed for a few days after that. Then, one day we were coming back from dropping his son off and I was holding on to some money. He told me to put it in "the bank". I asked him what that was and he said it was pretty much a girl's breasts, down her bra. Later on, he randomly texts me asking me to send him a pic of "the bank". I'm probably stupid, but I did and we went back and forth like that for a week.

Monday night, shortly after we exchanged stuff again, he randomly texts me saying, "this is getting out of control. We are cousins. I'm stopping." When I inquired further, he said, "I tried to aggravate you perversely. That's number one way to drive away girls. Went too far and I stated it. Sorry." I got upset about that. I got very upset because it made it seem like he just took advantage of me. He said he would explain the next morning when I took him to work, though.

When I took him to work, I was not prepared for the conversation that followed. He contradicted what he'd said the night before. He said, "I'm not saying I wasn't thinking about it. I was but think about what would happen."

He said my parents would murder him and kick him out (he lives with us currently but we're both adults). He said he didn't want to ruin our name but that he did like me and that IF we weren't cousins, we probably would get together. He kept calling it crazy and it kinda stung. I'm not good with talking and I couldn't remember the facts from this website off the top of my head so my argument was weak. He said we would talk about it more later but we never did and now he's acting like nothing ever happened. And I am so depressed and hurt. The more I thought about it, the more it sounded like he was just scared of what would happen because nobody has ever taken this route in our family before and he IS kind of at the mercy of my parents right now. I don't know how to convince him to change his mind. How do I ease his fear? :/

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Hi casinoclouds,

I read the previous posts you made but am still a bit confused about the current situation. Is your cousin currently single? You mentioned that he has a son currently.

It is also very apparent from the previous posts that your cousin has interest in you, and that has been confirmed by this latest post. I do not think you should feel like having been taken advantage of at the moment. It seemed what your cousin did was a silly way of trying to put you off of this potential drama. Seems like his plan backfired!

Now that you both know the interest you have in each other for a deeper relationship, I think it is important to have a clear sense of where your lives are currently headed, and what you can do in the meantime to both get to know each other and not rock the boat too much. Perhaps you can elaborate on the predicament that has led your cousin to becoming dependent on your parents? If I read your posts correctly, you two are living under the same roof right now right? Does your cousin have any plan to becoming more self-reliant himself?

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Thank you for responding!

Yes, he is currently single. He has a son from his previous relationship, but they are no longer together.

They had a house together, and when he left her he fell into a slump. He has been trying to get on his feet but nobody would help him. That's why he's staying with me and my family now. He's been saving up to get a car. After that, we were planning on getting a place together and being roommates. I don't know if that's going to happen now after all this, though.

I just don't know what I can do or say to change his mind about this.

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I'm sorry, but do you really want to be with a man who tries to drive you away by asking for pics of your girls? He sounds very immature to me. And you KNEW you were being used and yet compromised yourself anyway. You both need to grow up. Perhaps he's a little squeamish at the thought of initiating a relationship with his cousin. OK, we can all understand that. But it seems to me that you need to set your standards a bit higher. Personally, I would move on and try to find a man to date, not a childish boy. 

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the more it sounded like he was just scared of what would happen because nobody has ever taken this route in our family before

Ah!

and he IS kind of at the mercy of my parents right now.

Yep!

Pooch

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